I'm sorry that I've been neglecting your celebrity! I've taken a much needed two week break from my column! To make it up to you with some interesting reads, here is a piece that I wrote notsolongago:
Every 15 seconds a woman is beaten by her husband or boyfriend. (FBI Uniform Crime Reports,
1991).
Time it out. In the time that it takes you to read this entire article, roughly twenty women will have been beaten by an abusive husband or boyfriend. Does it make you sick? It does me.
I know that when I’m writing my column, “Tinseltown”, I tend to be lighthearted and, at times, slightly inappropriate when it comes to celebrity gossip. But reading up on the news about Chris Brown and Rihanna over these past couple weeks, I am left feeling absolutely ill.
In case you’ve missed it, on February 8, 2009, both Chris Brown and Rihanna missed their Grammy appearances. Allegedly, Chris Brown received a text message for a “booty call” from an unknown woman, which sparked an altercation between the two, allegedly resulting in Brown kicking, punching and biting Rihanna, leaving serious bruising, swelling, a split lip and a bloody nose on the “Disturbia” singer’s face.
According to thesuperficial.com , “According to the police report, she ordered him to drive her home and ‘faked a call’ to someone, saying things like, ‘He's dropping me off. Make sure the cops are there.’
Rihanna told cops the fake call enraged Brown. He said something to the effect of ‘You are really fucked up now. I'm going to kill you.”
Due to all of this, many gossip website are alleging that Brown will be serving many years in jail. However, one website, mediatakeout.com, begs to differ. “MediaTakeOut.com suspects that Chris Brown will likely serve less than a year in prison for the assault against Rihanna – and he may get off completely!! Many people in the media are speculating that Chris Brown will be brought up on felony domestic battery charge –but HE WON’T!!
MediaTakeOut.com discovered that, under California law, Chris Brown CANNOT be charged with domestic battery. That’s because the domestic battery law only applies to ‘a spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, former co-habitant, or the mother or father of his or her child.’ Since Chris and Rihanna don’t live together (Chris has continuously maintained his own apartment), aren’t married, and don’t have a child together – the law doesn’t apply.”
Going back to thesuperficial, “Now we're down to simple assault, which carries a six month sentence. Brown is a first time offender, and the defense will argue Rihanna instigated the fight, making this tough for a DA to prosecute.”
So, let me get this straight. It is Rihanna’s own fault that Brown assaulted her? Oh! It all makes sense now!
Actually, it doesn’t. Now, I did get this information from a fairly in-credible gossip website, so it may or may not be true. However, just seeing it there in print online, in a source that many find credible is enough to disgust me.
Which then brings me to what fans are saying in comment posts regarding this incident. On thesuperficial’s site, user “Tito’s Abdomen” says, “Imagine you’re a law enforcement officer…and you have to deal with this pile of horseshit. You’d actually have to TALK to Chris Brown and Rihanna and try to get a statement. What an insult to your professional career.”
So, apparently, it’s insulting to law enforcement officers to have to take down the allegations of those women that are actually willing to come forward and say that they’ve been abused. That’s good to know.
According to clarkprosecuter.org, “Police report that between 40 percent and 60 percent of the calls they receive, especially on the night shift, are domestic violence disputes.” That’s an average of half of the calls that are coming in per day.
Other fans are blaming Rihannafor this incident. According to MTV News comments, user “Nika2hot” says, “I don’t think Chris would hit a girl like that. She had to do something or say something out of the way for him to really hurt her.”
“Jb&weezyfan” says, “Chris' career may be ruined forever ... just like Michael [Jackson]'s ... sooo sad. I love all his songs. Well I'm still gonna support him. I just don't believe it ... until he says it..... cause Rihanna is a ***** .. wellshe looks like one anyways."
Basically, Rihanna is being completely blamed by fans for this.
I’m not okay with this, and I’m hoping that you aren’t either.
Being a high-profile celebrity couple, we obviously hear about them a lot. As media consumers, we are feeding off of celebrity relationships and modeling our own lives off of these relationships.
So, in seeing this happen, and then hearing that Chris Brown maypotentially get off scot-free, we are then learning that it’s okay to follow in Brown’s footsteps.
Men are reading these reports and seeing that nothing will happen if they beat their girlfriends. And women are learning that nothing will be done if they choose to step up, come forward and say I WAS ABUSED.
It is absolutely time to end this. Billboard.com cites that “Several top 40 stations have stopped playing Brown’s music including WKST Pittsburgh; KWNZ Reno, Nev.; and CHUM-FM Toronto. After polling listeners, Clear Channel's top 40 WAKS (96.5 Kiss FM) Cleveland decided to temporarily ban his music.”
This isn’t enough. We as women in this wonderful institution need to stand up and say that THIS IS NOT OKAY. It is time for a complete movement against domestic violence. We need to support each other for being brave enough to speak out against domestic violence. Because it is very real, happening every day, and we are not immune to it.
I give complete kudos to Rihanna, who is reportedly being completely cooperative with police as they investigate her “ongoing abusive relationship.” And I hope that she stays the hell away from Chris Brown and doesn’t wander back to him.
And I hope that you too realize what a big thing domestic violence is and how it affects all of us.
And I urge you to please speak out and say that this is not okay.
By the way, it took me an hour and a half to research and write this article. That’s ninety minutes. You do the math as to how many women have potentially been abused.
This is not okay.